My mother is dying. XW wants to be my friend.

[AJM]

I wonder....have any of the other MLCers on this board left, divorced and remarried as quickly as mine did? Seems to me from many that I have read, that the majority hang onto their OP for a while but never marry.

I see it the other way around. I see many that have left and married the OP almost immediately. Perhaps I only see it because mine did that (she remarried 9 months after D was final, but planned it long before the separation period was half over). I see many others that do similar. There's a poster posting now who's H is engaged and isn't even divorced yet. He's trying to kick her out of the house and move the OP in. Time is not the relevant thing to a MLCr.

Glad to hear you have mostly good days. I suspect as you figure out how to get her to go away the rest of the way, you'll do even better. And I do see that you're doing much better. I've seen that for a while. I also know that it doesn't just magically go away and "all is well". It wouldn't be real life if that were the case.

I am very sad to hear about your mother's struggles, but I know people are strong and will surprise you. I hope she turns it around and is around for much much longer, Tad.

Peace,
AJ