Why can't she just say something like "I am not leaving, I still have a bunch of stuff to work through, but I want to stay married to you, I see the possibility of a great R" or something like that...man, that would get rid of the limbo feelings in me.
Yes, I think this is common. My W will not acknowledge that she feels anything for me, except under duress such as when I kicked her out. When she was packing her stuff, she left me a message that include the line, " I do love you." Yet now that she is back, I'll not hear that again.
I think this is part of the MLC. They will not say, "hey, I have issues, but deep down I realize it is better to stay here and that I love you." I think you go by their actions. She is there, so clearly she believes it is better to be married.
