Dropping the Rope

[littleGTO]

Ok, DBers, I think I get the picture about my new friend, Sven...

Let me recap your advice:

PS/ruby- geography is bad
AS- "snuggling" = having sex in his mind
jp- me desperate for positive attention (yeah)

newman- enjoy positive attention
lost_hope- sounds like a transitional R/rebound R, but positive male attention may help me move forward

Thumpered- he's playing on my vulnerability & any R would be temporary & leave me with guilt (but he did NOT cheat on his W...it was the other way around, according to him--we talked about issues in our marriages some)

Thanks, everyone! There seems to definitely be a common theme here...proceed with caution. I hear your advice loud and clear.

Not sure how to proceed forward though. Still want to have interactions w Sven. It might be a while until he initiates contact again (to see me) as we are both busy this weekend and he may have his son the following weekend (weekdays he's too busy working, so I don't expect to hear from him unless I initiate texting).

In two weeks I start a new job (same building but new position) so I will be very busy when that starts up & my obsessive thinking about Sven will hopefully diminish.