I wonder if others notice similar behavior in terms of dropping some behaviors but others continuing?
It's a search for meaning and purpose. Fulfillment of some sort. Keep trying different stuff 'till the emptiness goes away.
My W was real heavy into the workouts. We have a nice gym in our basement, and for several months she was doing 1-2 hours every night. Lost 30 pounds and looks hot. Of course, I always thought she looked hot.
She still works out, but has cut back substantially.
She also did several dermo treatments early on. Joked about getting a boob job and tattoos but never did. That whole phase seems to be dead now.
The clothes shopping ramped up, but she still remains a thrifty bargain hunter. Refuses to spend big $$$ on clothes. Comes home and tells me about the great deals she got... and the things she passed up because they weren't on sale and she just couldn't bring herself to part with the money.
Was jogging, and still does, but had to cut back due to pain.
Got heavy into music, and still is. Many kinds. Never really cared much for it pre-crises. Our joke for her was a quote by Marge Simpson. "Music is none of my business"!
It looks like golf may be the next thing. GF and MF both play, and W has joined them at the driving range at least once. Was thinking about getting some clubs, but didn't want to spend a lot. Last weekend, when we were at her Dad's, I said "hey, look" as I found a set in his garage. Dad picked them up for free, and quickly offered them to W. They're in good shape and even appear to be the correct size!
Fore!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
