Just curious...you say I've got time? What makes one decide in three to six and another to take 1 to 2 years? Does it make a difference if there was not a lot of bickering or nastiness? Does friendship make a difference ? If so, how? I seem to be the one who cycles, rather than he. Although earlier he did mention, not wanting to hurt and guilt he was feeling. Also, he tends to leave an open door in his past emails..." you may not want me if I tell you X Y Z or counseling can make things worse and cause you to hate me , I don't know if I want to work on marriage, BUT maybe after individual counseling " This to me, seems like keeping me on a ride.
Also, another question. I packed up a lot of his things when he wanted to get some, he didn't want to take the Fall Winter clothes. Actually brought them back up to the closet. Yesterday, when needing to detach, I took the rest of his clothes and the mess he left on the shelves and inside closet, to the storage facility. Is taking down the rods and painting the room/decorating for me and my taste going too far? I just want to enjoy what time I have in this antique home, while I can. I don't want to be depressed while alone in the house. If I entertain is that going too far? I am SO tired of being alone and working on school and job. I want to feel good and really laugh with abandonment. Another question, since we are married, has anyone platonically dated during this " long haul " ? Does anyone set rules, or do we just let them call the shots...it just seems so odd right now, and I'm NOT thinking straight.
MLC=[censored] to be him
empathy: putting myself in his shoes and fighting like Hell for our marriage
" I will see you again...this is not where it ends..."
