When I was speaking about confronting...I meant if or when piecing may occur. If I feel this way now, months from now I will be even angrier. I am aware not to get "heavy" during this period....but really it took two to get here. I know where I went wrong and but do they ever try to work on things? Especially if they are the type that doesn't do this. UGH. Been reading the book, yes I did read about the MLC...he fits some of the profile, but almost seems as if he went through part of it while still under roof. Has anyone seen this or read about this? He knows he wants "change" but isn't solution oriented, which is odd due to his sales and mngmnt career. I believe he thought he was sharing with me, but was really sharing with his friends and inside his head. In one email, he said he missed me and the girls. Has felt melancholy thinking about what he loved...He is really a family guy. He and his b's and s's were pulled together due to what his father did. Family is everything to this guy! He seems to be a WAH and part MLC, is there such a thing? Anyhoo, made myself busy all day! I actually got three pairs of pants, and they make my butt look AWESOME! That is a positive for me and I'm holding on to this feeling as long as I can! I'm going to the gymn with my 21yo in a few, and going to work 'til I drop. I want to sleep soundly tonight. Tomorrow I get to go in to work, YAY! I'm SO loving my new job as an aesthetician. Husband will come to the house to pick up 21yo and look for a car on Sunday. I'll be at school , I may be around this time , not sure yet. Getting a new (used) car is an exciting thing for my daughter and I do want to share the moment with her when and if she brings one home! He may not come back to the house, but I think I should be here for her! Read the part of DR on setting small attainable goals. Not sure if one does this if the guy is in MLC. Right now I'm just trying to be upbeat and perhaps I can try " As If " ? Would love feedback...anything at this point...DISTRACT ME...so I don't cave...


MLC=[censored] to be him

empathy: putting myself in his shoes and fighting like Hell for our marriage

" I will see you again...this is not where it ends..."