Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

I haven't but you don't think in my circumstances and with love and affection vein out issue that that is a good idea? What if be assumes I'm starting the backslide?

That's why I was clear that you should not withhold affection, but you can moderate it based on how he treats you.

I get that he wants you to be more physically demonstrative, but who can be loving to someone who shuts you down like that? I mean, that's basically his complaint, right? He loves you but you aren't giving him what he needs. It's completely reasonable to want the same thing from him.

I guess I understand where he is coming from which I voiced to him but I ask agree and asked him to try and put the criminals on the street and me in different categories. I understand he is leery of my changes lasting but i asked he has faith in me. He said he does and that's why he is still here. He believes we can get there.

So why do you take him at his word when he talks about how unhappy he is, but not when he talks about wanting to be with you?

So question...how do I act if he comes home still in a terrible mood?

Talk to him. If he's unhappy and doesn't want to talk about it, then tell him you're giving him the space to deal with it himself.