My mother is dying. XW wants to be my friend.

[tadpole1025]

Thanks everyone. Everything you say is so right. I know it. I just still have some off days. I still have questions and still wonder why.

Blabbering....

As for contact with the X, I may just never answer a call from her again. Ever. Seems like that is the only thing that is going to do me any good.

I wonder....have any of the other MLCers on this board left, divorced and remarried as quickly as mine did? Seems to me from many that I have read, that the majority hang onto their OP for a while but never marry.

My S18 has turned down his mother's request for a visit three times now.

AJ - where ya been? I've missed you man. Our situations (or atleast our Xs) are so similar. You seem to do a great job of making me see that it really wasn't me. I'm not saying that I was the perfect husband, but sometimes I think about what she did, what we had and what she destroyed and think: "My God. What a fool."

I'm not there yet, but I do have some really good days from time to time. The bad days are getting fewer and this crap does get better with time.

A friend asked me last week what I would do if she asked to come back. I told him that I wasn't sure of an answer I could give her, but it would probably be one of the following:

1. Doubtful.

2. No.

3. Hell no.

Anyways, I just came here to vent or check in....

Tad

P.S. Mom has been in and out of the hospital for the better part of a month. I don't think she has much time.