First of all, I hope you know that we see who you are on here. We know this is a place you can vent and say what you want. But you shine through.
So, I was not in anyway saying what you should have said to your h. I think you did wonderfully.
And I am like you, I do not like confrontation, I am the peacemaker in my life. I try to treat people with care.
And I like who I am.
I understand what you said about always putting his happiness before yours. I did the same in my marriage.
But you know what, Nero? I have learned that is not a good thing.
For a few reasons. First of all, you cannot make someone else happy. You can enrich their lives, but, you cannot be responsible for someone else's happiness.
That is their job. And I have come to believe that my happiness is as important as someone else's.
You run the risk, when you put someone else first always, of losing you.
When I wrote to you I was trying to say that you are amazing. And it bothers me to see you putting yourself down in regards to him.
MLC or not, he is not treating you respectfully at times and that is not ok. It just isnt.
Nero, you are an amazing woman.
I just want you to see that. SO that when he says something hurtful, you remember how wonderful you are.
