well didn't have to have talk with W because D{7} was around. W wants the girls tonight because I am getting them for part of her time...they don't want to go especially D{12} who does not know yet..but she will be mad..and they can work it out...W always just wants the kids to act like nothing about this bothers them..that is how she has had to live her life..always acting as if she is happy even when she is not. I guess that is also an American cultural thing...we always have to be happy or pretend. I just need to focus on my girls and the trip ahead..
