This life is more than just a read through

[RosaLinda]

Thing is, I SAW the "old look" when she thought I was funny/fun/whatever from all these years...it was there for that minute.
What was cool was it just flowed natural, just being me (new+old)...no try, just be.
Maybe a wee crack in the wall happened?

T, thanks for sharing that cute exchange with W. I think when we and our spouses can just enjoy each other and share humor again, even if just for a minute, it does make a wee crack in the wall. And we all know what happens once there is a wee crack - it's much easier to get a wedge in there and pry the whole thing right open.

P, what a horrible thing to have happened, sorry. A problem is that even if you close your account, stuff that you have posted is already available online via google. So W is sort of right - in her eyes you ARE on the internet bashing her to everyone. I inadvertently learned this when googling something about Russia (my H's OW is a Russian Tramp) and to my horror, a post I had written on this forum popped up. Yikes! I changed my name and location.

I have read a lot of your old threads in the past, and you have been at this a long time. You aren't always doing everything perfectly, but which of us do things as well as T? Not me, that's for sure. I disagree that you should not have been writing about your W's hormones etc on this forum, the forum is for us and what ever is bothering us. We are friends and support each other.

Like Snodderly said, turn the focus back on you. You know the drill, and also that no matter what you do, everything is always the Stander's fault when the MLCer is in certain stages. Nothing you can do about that at all. Just secure your computer, and go back to DBing the best you can.