This whole pursuit , pull back thing sounds so creepy. It sounds very cruel and unkind. How does anyone go through all of this and not resent the Hell out of their WAS?
It can seem cruel for sure. That's why it helps to understand the dynamics of it, because if you expect it than you can be mentally prepared for it.
WAS's do a lot of things that seem mean, spiteful and hurtful. There are reasons for their actions, and understanding their reasons (as much as we can) helps the LBS to deal with it and not be hurt by it. We call it detaching from the roller coaster.
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How does one confront issues, when all that is said and done is incredibly damaging?
You don't. See Sandi2's 37 Rules. Live by those rules. Don't ever initiate a conversation about "serious" issues, keep everything light and fluffy. Forcing talks about serious issues is applying pressure, and WAS's HATE HATE HATE pressure.
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I find this to be overwhelming.
Totally understandable. Just take a deep breath, you've got plenty of time. It may seem right now like you don't, but you do. It's a marathon, not a sprint.
