i spend my life surrounded with people who say whatever comes to their lips- no matter who it hurts. and admittedly 'GO FOR THE THROAT" IN an argument. i listen like mad to them and everyone they've "flattened" talking about how hurtful it is, etc. my family (6 women) is a mess in that respect- it slants my life too much maybe - dealing with women forever- maybe i never ever knew one thing about men -
i try like mad to NEVER EVER EVER go there - and to alwasy think of the feelings of the person hearing it- does it REALLY need to be said if it's hurtful- do i really need to "go for the throat"?
is it really my "job" or anyones? to deliver HONESTY all the time - unasked for? - (AS IN slam some poor sucker on the head ) -
do we really HAVE TO figtht over x y or z???? i hate fighting- i hate it, hate it- and it always surprises me still when someone "goes for me"...
as my sisters & mother age- it's becoming more common and everyone is more "honest" (!!!???) wtf? and mad and angry and verbal. idk- genes???
this is the "peacemaker" "conduit" in this stinkin family resigning from her job - well, been trying for quite some time- they're not letting go without a fight....