Waiting For DR book from Amazon, SO my story...

[workinprogress]

I made sure I was not home when he dropped off my daughter. I just don't want to see him right now, I want to really focus on what I want, not react or respond to his behavior. I don't want to be so available for him to see. I have read the MLC part of DR and board, he does fit many of the symptoms. I believe he has been going through this internally while he lived with me. He is being introspective, has actually questioned if he was going through a MLC. I didn't validate nor respond to his thought, just let it hang out there. At the time, I did let him know he had to feel his emotions and that he had choices to make.
As for me... I took his Fall/Winter clothes to the storage unit yesterday and want to remove the dressers in the 10 x10 room that he used as a closet. I'm in an antique home, so to reach the bathroom I have to constantly walk through his stuff . I've decided he doesn't wish to live here, then I'm moving on and doing to the house what I want to do. I'm taking down the bars and brackets, and will proceed to paint the room. Thinking of making it a reading room off the Master bedroom. Since I'm in limbo, I want to at least have some control over my surroundings. I do vacillate between wanting him back and getting a written separation agreement. I truly fear the possibility of him deciding that he's tired of paying a mortgage and bills. I worry that he'll go through one of the stages that I've read about. His father completely abandoned his mother with five kids. She had to pull rank , called his C O and his pay was garnished to support her. Since I'm supposed to not believe what he says and does...he promised he'd never do something like that. I really don't know what to do , I don't want to push him further into feeling crappy. Yet I am in a protective mode. He is making a consistent effort to see our adult daughters on a regular basis. Having a job again has lifted his spirits, and he has looked into therapy.