" In the process I learned a lesson that I'd like to share. I asked for a written apology in which she would take responsibility for what she did. I don't know why I asked for that - just a gut feeling it was something I wanted. "
IMHO you shouldn't have asked her for this. You wanted her to say she was wrong. That's an ego thing and won't help your resentment of her because you pressed the issue. It's not something she voluntarily came out and told you. You will not get closure this way.
The only way to find peace is to actually forgive her with no strings attached. No apologies necessary from her. That way you release her and YOU are at peace with it. Technically your sitch hasn't been very long and so you are still in the early stages of DB.
Personally I can see there still being a chance for your M, but it would require you to forgive your W.
Good luck to you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
