Well its been couple if days now I have been really good no calling or texting H at all and I'm starting to feel more relaxed and more at peace. Still working on myself one day at a time.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
OK I need help with this one. Last night my youngest could not sleep he was up until 5 am he kept me up most of the time he said that he was having nigtmares. And tonight at once again he woke up but this time its 4:30am and he doesn't know why this time he is up this early in the morning so I told him to come and lay down with me. I really hope that new thing he is going thru will stop before school starts because it will not be good for him or myself. I could use any help or suggestions on what I can do for my son to help him stay a sleep thru the night. This just started from last night.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
OK I'm not having a good day I'm missing H really bad I haven't talked to him or seen him for 6 days now. This is so hard I don't know if I can keep going on like this anymore. I just want my family back yes I know its still a long process and I may not get my family back at all. But I don't know how much longer I can hold on to hope.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
HI K, I've hopefully given you some advice about your son in my thread Sorry you are going through a rough time at the mo Shed some tears and then move on! You need to have emotions or you won't be able to move on. It is still early days for you Have you come up with a list of goals yet? I can't wait to see them I'm too nosy that's why, lol. You are doing really well by not contacting H Keep up the good work however upsetting it can be Do you get a local paper? Is there something in there that you could take the boys to? As you see, one of my goals is to read the local paper weekly to get some activities and ideas to do things. Do you have any committees you can join? I'm on a carnival committee and I can take my son along with me I've met some great friends through this and they have been very supportive The best thing to do is keep busy. Even in the early days, I was always so busy with college. I used to wake up, have a cry then get up and get on with my day. I think I'm quite a strong person though You've got a job that you hold down, so you must be a strong confident person as well If the job is bringing you down, then maybe it's time for a change of jobs MY son keeps me busy. He is very demanding and wants to know what is happening on a day to day basis. He knows what he is doing tomorrow, but now wants to know what he is doing on Saturday!! I've not planned anything yet on Saturday, I've not had time to! You hav come so far since when I first met you Keep up the good work Speak soon
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Get as busy as possible, get tired and you won't have the energy to want to engage H, lol!! Usually works for me.
Don't worry too much about S, I think it will pass. I would go to him rather than him coming to you, if you don't want to set a precedent of him sleeping in your bed. If you don't care then don't worry about it. My S used to have night terrors, but outgrew them.
Also, try wearing him out a little more during the day, see if that helps!
He could just be reacting to all the change as well
Continue to be strong and positive K. It is hard as the days pass and we hear nothing from our H's. As already said, staying busy helps a lot. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I agree with Mimi and Kate I definitely think it's the sitch that is making your son like that and I would seek medical advice over this. Your doctor may be able to advise something or give him something to help him. Wearing him out is a good idea If the weather is nice, even if it's cold then wrap him up and head over to the park for a kick about or go on the swings, etc. Hope you have a better day today
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well MIL told me that she will be meeting OW tonight. I'm not going to ask MIL anything about the meeting tonight cause it will hurt me to know anything about their meetinhg. My plans for tonight is to go to dinner and go see a movie and by that time it will be bed time I have a long shift at work tomorrow morning. Well that's it for now.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Sounds good K Hope you enjoy yourself I agree with you, I wouldn't ask MIL what she thinks of OW either. You don't really want to know anything about her do you? I know I didn't!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
No I don't want to know about OW I already have my own thoughts about OW. Now so far my evening is starting out pretty good the mobile I just saw was pretty good. And now I'm ordering my dinner and I'm going to head home and just relaxe for The evening I have a long day at work tomorrow morning.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Sorry you are going through a rough time at the mo 
Shed some tears and then move on! You need to have emotions or you won't be able to move on. It is still early days for you