1. My pregnant W insisted that i asked my mom if she would care for my eldest daughter after she was born while we worked but my mom just shot 'have you delivered yet?'.
2. My mom did not prepare nourishing soups for W throughout her pregnancy which we asians believe it was good for both mother and child. W felt my mom did not care.
3. There are several incidences involving my mom or her lack of thoughtfulness that really bothers my wife. She felt so unloved by her MIL. It bothers me to find that her mom never really did anything for her when she's pregnant but takes issue with my mom for not being involved.
4.My sis was different. She resented my sis for doing something taboo over our wedding period which we had cautioned everybody earlier. She nonchalantly mentioned she's done something after our wedding. My sis strongly denied it when we confronted her years later. My wife never believed her. We don't have any proof other than what she said.
5. When W bought a new bigger car, it was her proud moment as she felt she had made it in her career. My mom asked why would W would want to show off. I stupidly relayed it back to W. W was upset but kept it herself then.
6. My sis didn't want to drive to a faraway place using her own car but instead borrowed a much bigger car from a friend. W found out and thought it was hypocritical of my family due to point5 above.
7. When my sis was preparing for her wedding, she's worried that her husband's family would disturb her 'matrimonial room'. Mom relayed this back to W and I. W was upset because it was hypocritical due to point4.
8. My sis and mom were always rude to my dad. I guess it was his uninvolved relationship with us throughout our lives that made all of us lost respect. I did tell them off. This made W resent them even more.
9. When my mom bought something for us during W's pregnancy, I returned the money which is a small amount and my mom accepted. W was upset my mom accepted.
10. Mom thought W scolded MIL over the phone. I asked W about it and she insisted that she made no phone calls to her mom and it was somebody else and she wasn't angry.
11. W delivered and was complaining about her pain. Mom asked if it really 'that painful'. It was insensitive as mom had forgotten her own delivery pain and should be empathetic. Years later when mom had her surgery and was complaining of her pain. W thought it was hypocritical.
12. Mom was tasked to bring specially prepared meal to W after her delivery. Mom was late because she wanted to wait for my brother before they come over. The meal was already cold when they reached. W took a few bites and was really disappointed.
I did not stand up for her when she needed me to be. Those i think really upsets W because she brings them up over and over.
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
