The hardest decision - need advice, please!

[RosaLinda]

DMR "As an aside - she described him as "doesn't know how to be angry" and "the kindest person I've ever met." Yawn. Sounds like the boring drip I found him to be... LOL."

Bond "You do understand that what she found attractive in him is what you should have been doing for her. In your case, I wouldn't dismiss what she says about the OM all the time."

Ouch. My H's OW is a pushy, nasty, aggressive bitch. But fun. His words. 

H says I am the nicest woman he knows, and  that I deserve someone better. I have been following my DB coach's instructions to give him space but to be Lovely Wife when HE approaches me. Following your instructions to DMR, Bond, are you saying that in my sitch, I should be more pushy, mean, fun and aggressive???