I am so sorry he said those words to you. It's not right.
Nero, I just wanted to say a few things to you, if I may. I feel as if you are spinning a bit. Totally understandable, but, I care about you and it bother me to think that you feel the way you do about yourself and the situation.
When this all happened with me, I was a basket case. I had a part time job with no benefits, xh has racked up $60,000 in credit care debt I didnt know about, invaded our iras and 401K, and our house was upside down, so no equity.
How's that for suckky? When we divorced, I was required to assume half of that debt I didnt know about and I couldnt retrieve any of the retirement funds he took because we were married at the time.
Unfortunately, I still cant find full time work. I worry, too, about my age and the ability to get a job in a terrible market.
So, I get your fear completely. My financial life, is to say the least a freakin mess. I dont know if I will ever get out from under.
But, I am surviving. I am ok. I may be living in a tent soon, but, it will be a pretty tent. LOL!
Really though, Nero, I know that you would be ok, too.
I just dont think you're done yet.
But, I dont want to see you standing because of fear.
That doesnt serve you well or do you any justice.
And I dont want to see you allowing his actions to make you feel badly about you.
I'd like to see you get the mindset that he is freakin crazy, because let's face it, he is and let him blow in the wind.
The thing about dbing is that you need to get to a place where you understand he is suffering from assholism and you want to stay as far away from it as you can so you dont catch it, ya know?
And I want you to feel better about you. You have such gifts, Nero.
I want you to get to a place where you dont answer his stupid comment about a visit with anything but a look on your face like, for real buddy?
