I hope I didn't suggest you were having R talks with W, b/c of what I said about having many R talks with my H.
You didn't, and we're not.
Originally Posted By: RL
And this describes our life together to a tee, and breaks my heart that you are going thru this too...
Don't you feel like two boarders who are pleasant to each other when they pass in the hall
Yep. And I have (mostly) accepted that this is where we are now, and do what I need to do to make the best of it.
Originally Posted By: RH
Wow, that musta hurt and been an eye-opener as to where she was in that moment of time.
You know, at the time I thought "we'll probably never bother looking at 'em again, so yeah, why not toss 'em out." It was only after the fact, when I realized that now I never could look back at them, that I felt some loss. Plus, I was pretty much in depression myself at the time.
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FY, you don't seem to have that "Idk if I could ever forgive her for what's she has done" attitude. Why is that?
Good question!
I'd say because she is still in our home. Maybe even trying to get through this without bailing on me.
She hasn't had a PA, and is transparent enough that I'm near %100 positive this is true.
Also because my incident two days before BD in March 2012 pushed her over the edge, so I feel some responsibility. (she had already been spinning into crises since her Mom's death in Dec 2011, but my actions gave her the "sign from the universe" that she needed to bail)
Mostly though, it's because of what I see she is going through. I have compassion for her because I know how badly she is hurting, struggling. She's not trying to hurt me, just doing what she feels she needs to do for herself. I really feel this is true for most MLC'ers.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
