Yes, it certainly appears that i have a lot of work to do in how i handle and react to things regarding XW. After reading your reply, i can definitely see how she would have no interest in wanting to discuss anything with me because i sure seem to come off like an ass. It is things like this that caused problems in our marriage. I wasn't happy at times in our M either, so this is how i chose to react to her.
I felt i was never a priority to her when we were married so in turn, i started treating her badly because i wasn't getting what i felt i needed from her either. In hindsight, if i would have been the person she met, it might have made her want to show me more love and attention. I just want a chance to try and do things differently, but if i don't figure out how to handle myself during these types of interactions, that chance will never come.
I have so much to learn yet, and until i can make those changes and stop being so stubborn, i will lose her forever if i haven't already.
It is just starting to feel like time is slipping away and i am losing my window of opportunity, but if i don't start now, i am doomed no matter who i end up with.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13