I try to stay calm, but it seems like she is trying to coerce me into a negative reaction so she can continue to justify her actions.
Strangely I read the exchange as just the opposite, it sounded to me like you were the one trying to start an argument. Your W seemed to be expressing some valid concerns, and instead of addressing them you launched an emotional tirade back at her.
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i just want a sign or something to fall out of the sky and hit me on the head telling me i am doing things the right way, or the wrong way, or anything at all.
Are you still actively reading DR? Keep reading it, it's the best way to stay focused. I've read all of it several times and parts of it many, many times.
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I struggle with wanting to ask her out to a casual dinner so we can see if things could be different, but i am just unsure of when the right time is, or if i am supposed to wait until she makes the first move.
You should absolutely back off. Your R with her should be "friendly neighbor". Treat her like you would a good neighbor. Be kind and considerate, chat with her when the opportunity is there but don't go out of your way to throw yourself in front of her.
