WH, I'm sorry to hear about your co-worker. Is it possible for you to stay in touch w/him? I'm sure he would love to hear from you once the dust settles.
As for your h, he's bound and determined to get his way. He's really trying to wear you and your lawyer down. As for paying less than the state mandate...unless the judge is in his pocket, I don't think the judge will agree to that either.
Please don't be surprised if he changes the property part (again). If his credit is bad, I seriously doubt that he'll be able to refinance. Sounds like he's been spending quite a bit on someone or something. That's a lot of debt! Be thankful your name isn't tied to it.
Hang in there...you are going to encounter some rough seas ahead, but I have a lot of faith in you and your lawyer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
