A few things have hit me letting me know that I need to take back control of my life rather than sitting and reacting to what W is doing.
• Me buying some clothes and feeling good about myself (Great feeling) • Images of W and OM looking like a couple. • Not exposing or acknowledging the A. In not doing so I look more and more like a door mat and that I also condone their actions. • Also realising that I hadn’t set any boundaries on W behaviour as she was coming and going as she pleased from our house to OM house.
When D11 was out of the way I approached W and said “This coming weekend I will be moving back into the main bed room as it was obvious you had an alternative place to sleep and that you had another man”.
We are still getting a D so I was surprised (well maybe not) at her reaction as she denied she was in an A, denied OM and said she didn’t have anywhere else to sleep so she wouldn’t be budging. She played her poke face and said she didn’t want to argue with me and rushed off upstairs. All this is familiar to me as when she doesn’t know what I know she runs off, if she knows what I know she counter attacks with ferocity deflecting my argument into blame on me.
Before breaking off I told her if she didn’t want to make a more permanent arrange with OM I would go to his place and let him know (bluff on my part), I also told her that she wasn’t being discrete in her actions and people were beginning to notice and talk .
My 4 nieces who are my support network are fully backing me on this, if W wants to sleep with OM from 10pm to 4am she may as well make if full time but W said she’s going nowhere until she gets her share of the house equity. So we’ll await fireworks on this one.
Changing topic slightly, a lady contacted me on a dating site and we exchanged emails. We are probably not each others type but we both come across as sane to each other . So we have agreed to a date if only to use it to hone our dating skills, if we hit it off that would be a bonus.
Also one of my nieces mentioned that one of her co workers was asking about me and my situation I met this lady briefly 8 years ago at the naming ceremony for my nieces daughter. She has been single for a long time and my nieces says she is very nice and it would be good for me to have at least 1 date. W has stripped my confidence over the years and my niece is telling me I’m not the fat, lazy ugly person W has portrayed me as. In her words “You’re a good looking guy and I’m not just saying that cos you’re my uncle”.
