In Malaysian Law, custodianship is awarded to one parent and it favours the mother. Even its contested, mothers usually wins unless proof is shown that the mother is incapable to care. There is no provision for joint custody. The other spouse can have access to the children but with reasonable notification.
^^^wow ok. Looks like the law is in her favor too. Well just make sure you are there for the kids planet, get the most of what you can since you have "unrestricted visitation". What is "reasonable notification", atleast 24hrs notice?
Originally Posted By: planet
This is a hardline approach. That's pushing her further away. Doesn't look like i'm gaining any respect. Sounds like an insecure and controlling H. Kindly put me into the right perspective if i'm wrong.
It is up you planet, the choice is always yours and only you know what approach you will apply on your sitch. This is just my POV, because that's what helps me cope in my sitch. This is what I value and respect and to me staying in a M while an A is going on is unacceptable. I absolutely disagree that it is controlling because my W has a choice, she can pursue the A if she choose to I'm just not going to be a part of it. She can either respect that or not. So going back to you what do you value? Are you prepared to stand up for them regardless of what your W's reactions might be? You don't have to answer me, the answers are for you planet and it might take some time for some soul searching.
Keep venting/posting here.
Good luck to you planet.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
