I won't be disclosing ANY info to him about my personal life unless it involves the kids. It does seem to be driving him crazy that I am tight lipped about it. That is so contrary to what he seems to want me to do. Boy they are confused, aren't they?
I purposely don't take the cards down because first of all, they are his cards to do as he pleases and the ones that he's given me are mine to do with as I please. I'm sure it makes him crazy to see those lovely cards and not have any of those thoughts and feelings any longer. I remember him telling me nearly a year ago, just after he went to visit the ow for the first time that he wished I didn't love him so much. They wish for the craziest things to ease their guilt.
I have no desire to pressure him at all. I know what he's capable of when he's under pressure, whether it's from work or people in his life right now. You know, I just thought of something. Before he left he was starting to distance himself from his friends and colleagues saying that they always want to talk about work when they get together. The complain but never do anything to make things better for themselves. He told me he was bored with them and didn't really want to waste his time with people like that. Distancing from friends that you've known for many, many years seems odd to me. I guess it's just he and the ow against the world now.
Thanks for the confirmation of what I've also heard from others that have had the ACL surgery. A few people said that it worked for them but that the recovery was at least 6-18 months depending on the physical therapy. It's been close to a year now and I think I'm as close to being as good as new as I would have been had I had the surgery. The only thing that I can't do quite yet is bend my knee as far as I could prior to the injury but I'm oh so close. I have no pain or weakness so I keep doing the exercises that I find helpful and hoping for the best. You too, keep doing the exercises and you'll be 100% sooner than you think.
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
