Figuring out the old and new life

[RosaLinda]

Wow FY, this WAS a devil of a R discussion, and you handled it like the professional DBer you are! Sorta sad to have been DBing so long that you turn pro at it, but it looks good on a resume. 

My H and/or I have said a lot of these exact same things, almost word for word. Now I know why my H is so forgetful and spacey - he is concentrating so hard on memorizing the scripts laid out in the MLC handbook. 

And this describes our life together to a tee, and breaks my heart that you are going thru this too:

"While she sometimes tells me details of her world, or what's on her mind, we more often spend much time apart... or together with very few words. It's weird when you can do a 20 minute car drive and only say 2 or three sentences. Or spend the entire night at home in separate rooms."

Don't you feel like two boarders who are pleasant to each other when they pass in the hall, or sometimes watch TV together in the evening or discuss politics, but never ever share their hopes, their dreams, fears, plans, their feelings? We do things as a team too, but as Ruby wrote today, talk but do not communicate.