DB seemingly backfired w/ my H???

[Mimi00]

There have been so many brand new topics posted today by newcomers, it breaks my heart that so many marriages are in crisis(just imagine how many more people aren't on this forum). Marriage isn't supposed to be this way.

It can't be that we are all choosing the "wrong spouse". It has to be that most times, we simply don't start out understanding as humans we are flawed, we don't come into marriage perfect, and we are going to make many mistakes while in the marriage. Both spouses are "messed up" from past experiences and we are meant to help heal each others past through unconditional love and understanding and realizing that most of the poor actions our spouses exhibit shouldn't be taken personal; but should be properly discussed, while in the marriage. But too often we end up "damaging" each other more, because we protect ourselves through various hurtful defenses, instead of being vulnerable and learning how to love one another they way each individual needs.


Just random thoughts I had while reading threads today.