The minute you stop lying to yourself is never pretty. ;P
Today in an email I clarified that I was becoming a WAS, but emotionally, because when someone doesn't want to be around you, it hurts, even if he has never said a word. We nitpicked, argued, strong armed (that was me...) but didn't communicate. I said that if I had been capable of this level of communication and growth in the marriage, maybe things would have been different.
