2old, I know fully where you are coming from. While my W didn't have breakfast with me the morning of the BD, it was still a similar situation. She was the normal W right up until DB. I too feel to old for this shirt. This is the time we should be enjoying together, not apart. I feel ripped off. We were only 1 year away from finishing our country service together, our youngest left home , but we got to celebrate none of these together. This year, instead of being apart, we could have had time together finally without the kids. We would have been looking at only a few months of country service left. Next year we would have celebrated our 25th anniversary and my 50th birthday. But in saying all this, what everyone has been telling you is correct. You must continue to not speak to the family and friends (it is hard I know), and you must allow your W to initiate contact. It is their journey. We have our own journey to make now.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
