Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part IV)

[AnotherStander]

I talked to W last night and I misunderstood what she told me before, it turns out the reason the surgeon wanted to go back in is the "margins" around the tumor had precancerous cells in them. So the surgeon is concerned that the cancer was not removed. The surgery last Friday was to remove more margin material to see if the precancerous cells extend out any further. W has already decided that if they find more precancerous cells from Friday's surgery then she is going to proceed with the double mastectomy. She should hear back today or tomorrow.

I am sorry you are going through so much - physically and emotionally.

Thank you, it really has just wiped me out!! I just can't believe the timing, I couldn't have gotten sick at a worse time.

Man sorry to hear this and no one to take care of you!

Yeah, I'm not going to lie, being sick AND alone is pretty sucktacular, LOL! The kids are back with me this week, even though they're not helping me much it's nice to have the companionship.

You didn't mention, did your W show any concern about your sickness? Or does she not really see how sick you are?

It's kind of hard to explain, but she's always kind of left me alone when I'm sick. I mean she would check on me to see if I needed anything, but she's not one of those compassionate, nurturing types if that makes sense. She has asked how I'm doing, but she's got more on her plate than I do so I don't blame her for not running over to check on me. She also has concerns that if she's exposed to me it may make her sick since her immunities are depressed right now from the surgery. I totally understand her position.