NLT, Yes, he was looking around to see what had changed, if anything and to revisit those past memories. If you had told him that you were dating, it would have eased is guilt for what he's doing. As for it not mattering to him....sure it does, because they don't want us, but they also don't want someone else to have us either. It's a sick way of thinking, but they do get jealous/snippy in some instances if you become serious about someone else.
Whatever you do, do not tell him that you are not dating. Continue to smile and leave it as mysterious as you can. You aren't lying when you smile and change the subject...it helps to keep them wondering just what you are doing.
As for his clothes, when they begin to bug you, move them to another room. The cards, well, he's not going to be too bothered around them because he doesn't have them to look at every day and he knows that as long as they are still in view, you are right where he left you. He looks at the home as yours now and he won't do anything to change the interactions he has w/you right now. Now, if you were to rock the boat and begin putting pressure on him, you may very well see the ugly, dark side come out to the play. Unless you absolutely need to pressure him, I would stay the course you are on.
Take things slowly w/your knee and you'll not regret doing so. I don't know too many friends who have had successful ACL surgeries. Most of the people I know have learned to grin and bear it and suffer through a long, slow recovery. It's always difficult to decide whether to have surgery or not because the fear of the unknown tends to surface and it does make you wonder about the "what ifs". I'm glad you are almost recovered completely. Let's hope the last 5% comes soon!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
