Stated reasons: Not happy, things need to change, feels like he doesn't come first, has put everyone else first, not he wants it to be about him.
You might want to do some reading on the MLC forum, there are some indications there of MLC and certainly his age is right there too.
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It went swimmingly. He was attentive and was happy I liked the new phone, couldn't stop showing me how to use it. First daughter was jealous of his attention towards me!
This is part of the distance/ pursuit dynamic. It happens, don't read anything into it. He'll pursue for a while and it's easy to think that things are getting back to normal. Then he'll suddenly drop you like a hot rock. Just recognize it for what it is and it'll save you some heartache.
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We high fived, I drank...I don't drink 180.
Ummmm, I think perhaps you misunderstand what 180's are. They are taking stock of what you did wrong in the M and doing the opposite of those things.
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He's noticed the 22 pounds taken off and the gymn's toning. Walked him to the car and more of the up and down looks. Gave me a " you're looking good! " Asked if I wanted to go to lunch or dinner this past weekend. Yay!
That's great that you've lost that much weight. But drop the expectations!! You CANNOT depend on anything he says right now.
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Weekend came and went, stood up....triple BOO! Something hit him, fear, anxiety, ? No call, text, or email all weekend.
Again, it's the distance/ pursuit dynamic. He pursued a while, then felt like things were getting too chummy and you were getting the wrong impression so he went back to distancing.
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Perhaps I should text an acknowledgement that I recv'd his call and phone message?
Depends on what the message was. If it was just "hey, tried to call you, bye." then there's no need for a reply at all. I wouldn't respond unless he asked a question that needs answering. Here's the thing, when he distances, YOU need to distance too. When he pursues, YOU need to temper your response to it. DO NOT pursue him! Read Dobson's Love Must Be Tough, it gives some great insight into the distance/ pursuit dynamic.
