Circles no more

[shouldistillhope]

I have been having a bit of anxiety the last couple days, and i am not sure where it is coming from. I have been trying to get out and ride mountain bike and do things with friends, but they are also busy with their families so that can get hard to do at times also. They at least take time out to check on me though which is nice.

So back to the anxiety part. I think have been reading so many articles about reconciliation after D and have been getting too many differing opinions and points of view as to how to handle going about trying to establish a new relationship with XW.

So a little advice and help is needed here to help me with my information overload.

My XW has texted me and i have been trying not to read too much into anything, but i believe she is having a hard time with what the future has in store for her. She was always one who needed a concrete plan to get her through the day or week. She didn't like not having a clear path. I haven't offered her any advice because i feel that is what she needs to work through on her own, but i also wonder in regards to a possible reconciliation now that we are divorced if i am supposed to reach out to her and just invite her out for pizza or some other fun event?

I am having a hard time being friendly with her right now and for the last couple of years of our M, i was the one who was always on the grouch side. Should i put a smile on my face when we are exchanging the kids and act all happy even though i am more confused than ever?

Part of me thinks that maybe i should wait a couple months, part of me thinks i should wait until she asks me out again (which i am not sure will ever happen) and part of me wants to ask her to dinner in a couple weeks. How do things change after a D?

Some of the other articles i have been reading say not to wait too long or you might lose them forever. I guess that if that is what is going to happen, she wouldn't have considered it anyway, but i don't know.

If any of you have had any luck with reconciliation post D, would you be willing to share any pointers or advice you had on what worked or what didn't work? What were the timelines? I know every sitch is different, but i feel like i don't want to miss a window of opportunity.

Thanks.