Bea, thanks again. Your words make sense to me. And I am treating this exchange as a touch and go. I had a bit of a rough night of it and was so glad to see everyone's posts. But, it did not last like it once would have lasted. I don't want to play anymore. And thank you for the advice about asking him questions. No doubt I am dying to know (because I am generally nosy) but I don't want to ask. If he wants to tell me, great but I do not want to force confidences. Colour me curious though!
FY, you are such a dear. I felt a hug from the screen. Thank you. This business really does erode self-esteem. And when I look back on the list I wrote of outward changes made a year ago, none of them have been done. Of course, I did not know how much life would get in the way. And how wrong is it that I didn't want all his changes to be good - that I would prefer him writhing a little due to one change in particular?
Hey DMR, yes, isn't it strange. So many things that he actively disapproved of suddenly became fine. MLC may be real, but I don't give him a pass for them. If ever we are to even be friends, he will still have to earn my trust.
So....here is what I finally answered and because I know MM likes the words, here they are: Saturday night cold here - perfect for a bonfire and s'mores. Gorgeous skies. Sounds like your life is on track for you but you can keep your bloody mornings. [the last bit is in reference to the fact that he works early mornings].
I didn't want to say I was glad that his changes were good. Some things I just cannot validate.
In less than 10 minutes I had a reply, with general comments and "Life is challenging but I remain optimistic" So, he isn't ready to spill the beans. And I have no idea what he means by that sentence. Same guesses apply as before, I guess.
Just because, I sent back a reply straight away of a picture of my cat relaxing - all paws in the air - and said learn a lesson from my cat.
Almost right away, he replied with a quip.
In the end, very positive exchange but no more replies from me. No questions, so nothing to answer. And I still don't have a clue what is going on in his life. Neither has he a clue what is going on in mine. I wonder if it will be another month before I hear from him again?
That is what a $2 ticket bought me! FY, you'll have to let us know how you make out with yours.
Linda, my dear friend, thank you for having my back. I have yours, too. Both of us with pool noodles at the ready. But I have always believed that good friends not only support but challenge each other. You do that for me.
