So I spent the rest of yesterday reading the threads you provided Cadet on MLC etc. Much of last night was spent thinking about my sitch and things now appear to me much worse than I had imagined. At this point I believe my WAW will not ever decide to reconcile. If a S can walk away in the manner such as she did no anger, no discussion etc. remaining nice right to the end reflects a serious lack of love or concern for the LBS. If there were anger it would reflect emotional feelings to the LBS. If there were talks iniatiated by the WAS after the escape it would also indicate feeling. There is none of this in my sitch. My WAW shows no emotion whatsoever. Giver her age the effects of her thought pattern now can only mean she was/is prepared to move on permanently. There was even discussion in one of the threads where the WAS left the 2 beloved dogs behind so that the LBS would be able to handle the sitch better. Wow, that in my opinion is a very sick thought that one can walk away thinking your pets will comfort the LBS. This kind of thinking is pretty far out there. But, as I read a WAS will and can use anything to justify their own thought process and what they do.I believe also one thread discussed the nice till the end sitch. Then once away the icy coldness overtakes. I still dont comprehend that fully but its obviously something for examining. And you are right CAdet, Their kind of pain is no where near what we the LBS experiences. As A matter of fact in my sitch there seems to be no feelings of guilt or even the slightest concern for what she has done. As described, the lack of emotion and communication from the WAS depicts a complete lack of emotion and absolutely no concern towrds the LBS. If anything I have put out here is wrong or needs correcting please feel free to comment.
