Hi ctbdad, I’ve been on a long journey, with the no sex for me and rampant sex when she was with OM, only my journey has landed me in the big D section as she never fully came back to me although I really tried hard to make it work.
Regarding breaking contact with OM, even if they say they have broken contact he’s still there in the back of their minds, he is plan b if this piecing doesn’t work, just as you were plan b when she took flight with OM. All you can do is not stress over things like FB and let her decide if she wants to unfriend people. If you push, you push them away.
At the moment she is subconsciously watching you and what she can see is someone stressing over the M and stressing over the no sex , she won’t see that as an attractive proposition.
What you need to do with W is become her friend, then her friend who she can have fun with, then her fun friend she can ML with, finally her husband.
