very good on your progress! and Joanne is great, she is my coach too. one of the things she has told me (more than once) when trying to decide what to do: "will this move me closer to my goal, or farther from my goal?" that is a good criterion. I think that when it is time to confront your wife, you will know; or you can ask Joanne for guidance. in the meantime keep doing the things we discussed earlier and you (and your kids) will only benefit.
