Star, those are good suggestions. they are in the Divorce Remedy book too. we call it "getting a life" and even abbreviate it here as "GAL" because it is such an important and frequently-used technique. i.e. develop your other interests, it will be good for you in many ways, as you described.

F4ML - it's best to stick with one thread, easier to follow.

good luck with the conversation with your coach. they are really helpful. in the meantime, read the Divorce Remedy book if you haven't already done so. also here are some good guidelines - "the 37 rules": http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2250607#Post2250607

regarding confronting, I would say to hold off on it for now. you can always do it later. the question is, will confronting move you closer to your goal, or farther from your goal? chances are that you will get more results from the DB techniques, without confronting right now.

good luck and keep us posted on what happens!

Me: 60 H: 63
married 40, together 42
3 grown kids