Subguy, I've had this reply in mind for a week and just now getting to writing it out.
About the pain, pain always accompanies change and growth. It'a a part of the process. It came to me while doing yoga one day that when I do certain poses or new poses, I feel some pain and if I fight it by tightening up and holding my breath it increases. But if I recognize the pain, relax and remind myself to breathe, it eases and I can go a little further or hold the pose a bit longer.
I think that's helpful for the pain in our soul, too. Accept and allow, breath into it. It doesn't take it away but it allows us to work through it. To each day get a little further in our journey.
Good analogy bug... I am allowed to hurt and be in pain and that's okay. I'm learning to roll with it.
Originally Posted By: StubbornDyke
Excellent description, Subguy. I nominate that post for a sticky.
Thank you SD, I really hope someone gets some use out of it. It took a lot out of me to get to this point and I really would not trade my new found knowledge of true forgiveness for anything. I feel different now, like I'm supposed... better.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
