2 year A confirmed

[willbwell]

So crazy! My H too is sad. I see it in his eyes. I know he's confused. He was just home early July saying he wants to work on us and he loves me. I know he does. I know to restore will require tremendous work. I understand he gets mad or short with me because of his guilt. H says he's just grown apart. He says he is on a different path. he admits he took us for granted, but he is still not willing to do anything about it. I know ow is still a strong addiction. I don't know much about ow. She lives in another city. works under him(a big no no) but he travels there once a month. she's 36, 2 kids. Do you know about ow in your case?
I've gotten much better at listening, validating. I try not and put words in his mouth. I try and watch my smart aleck responses . I really cursed at him after he told our boys about affair. knew it was not good on my part and solves nothing. Wednesday I will remain calm. He wants a collaborative d. I will ask him if he asked the kids what they want. Right now, it is all about him. I will say not what kids and I want.
I hope these men wake up! I really want my h to see this site and read some posts. I want him to realize what he is doing is so scripted!