Maybe it is just a simple fact of life that yes, this is one of the hardest and most emotional things in life to happen to us. Sometimes we get through it, with help from family, friends and forums like this, sometimes we simply get to a point that we can no longer deal with the hurt and anger. As lots of us say, it is a rollercoaster ride. Maybe sometimes we become like the WAS, as becoming a person we think can deal with it all. For me, I try to take in what is important and sensible to me. I don't and haven't felt pressured to use the DB coaches. But have used them when I decided I wanted to. I then haven't felt that I needed to spend money each week listening to them. I have read the DB books and lots of other self help books. Again haven't felt pressued by others on this forum or coaches to stay with these books only. Most importantly, I made the decision to understand the DB principles in relation to other principles about separation. I made the choice that while the DB principles were hard to do, I cannot see a better way for improving my sitch. Down the track who knows, maybe the W would tell me I should have done this and this instead. I also acknowledge that using the DB approach won't guarantee my marriage will be restored, may not make me a better persons, but it certianly isn't making me any worse. Take care Papa.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
