Falling Down 100....Getting Up 101

[BrightFuture]

Hey, Portia. I’ve read your updates, then went for a walk with my dog and kept thinking about your news. I understand your anxiety about this text exchange and your worries about some “news” that you might not want to know. It is hard to gauge what is going on in his hear and why he contacted you. My first thought was that he would not contact you if there were some developments with GF, or a new interest. After not communicating with you for a few months, why all of a sudden he would want to share the news about himself if everything would be good in his life? These “lots of changes” could mean anything. The good thing is that he wanted to share his life with you, even just in generic terms. It means that he could not get you out of his mind.

I think you are doing the right thing by replying in a generic way. Be positive, happy and upbeat. It would be great if you could insert some mystery in your replies. But, by all means, protect your feelings, don’t have expectations. He might be just testing the waters to see if there is still any connection. You just don’t know. Take it slowly. I’m thinking of you and keep my fingers crossed.

Thanks for posting on my thread. Your advice is always good and strait to the point. I guess it might be easier for us to see other people’s sitches. We just need to learn to apply the same advice to our own. I find some similarities in our situations (some WAS behavior), so I will keep watching the developments in your story very closely.