What do I do?

[chl0901]

Hi sthelen, I'm sorry about your H's A. I know what you mean when you say, "And I think it goes without saying that he would have to make some positive changes in his life for this to work. I can't overlook the fact that he's been having an affair and lying through his teeth for the last 4-8ish months." It's hard to be the one making the positive changes when obviously our spouses need to make some pretty big changes themselves, but aren't (at least at this point). I hope that you are feeling a little bit better today; try and keep up that PMA. Keep wearing "real" clothes, and looking nice for yourself - I know I feel better when I feel I look nice.