you need to listen to you HEAD, and not your emotions or feeling of emptiness. You are in a tough situation, and everything seems grim. But, you are setting yourself up for more heartache, more pain, the longer you continue down an un-healthy road the worse things will be.....try to picture where you will be with this man in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, whenever. If he is abusive now, do you honestly think he will become loving, somewhere down the road? You deserve so much better than that. Take care of yourself. Take care of your kids. You have been given some GREAT advice here. Follow it