Hi, its Hwy61 (had username changed). Hang in there! I just caught up on your situation. You are at the same spot I was a few months ago. It sounds to me as though perhaps your H had held onto a lot of grudges, but didn't openly talk to you about anything that was bothering him. In a way it is good that he has finally opened up to you about his complaints.

The same exact thing happened to me back in February. My H finally told me every single little thing that had been bothering him. At the time, I was VERY defensive, trying to argue every point he was bringing up. This was before I knew anything about DB'ing. Knowing what I do now, and from reading Divorce Remedy and this forum, I would have known to VALIDATE!! And to really take note of what complaints he was bringing up. Like lovethehub stated, now is the time to 180 the complaints, and to prove to him that you are ready to change, and that the changes are permanent. That is key!

It is not over til it's over. My H told me at one point he was done as well, but we are still continuing on. It is not perfect, and we are still in limbo, but slowly things are getting better.

Hope you are feeling better,
(((((hugs)))))

-cp

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.