After several weeks of no contact, a phone call to say he wanted to collect his golf clubs.
I said fine, come at 4pm.
Then the tirade started. A pent-up need for information: When will the kids be finished school tonight? Where are they till that hour? Have you told your lawyer you don't need him any more? Are you planning any trips away soon?
He has obviously been reading my email... He got really frazzled on the phone but i didn't take the bait. I ended the conversation as he was getting so angry with all this questioning of me.
Less than an hour later and he was ringing back saying "I just want to apologise for my bad attitude" I said "It's understandable, you were upset." H: 'No it's never understandable to get like that".
He showed up to get his clubs and was as nice as pie. I did some pleasant small talk and then didn't invite him in as he stood around waiting to come back into the house. Just a cheery "bye" like you would to an acquaintance.
Seems like his behaviour is still straight out of the text book.
He did have a moment of insight - admitted that it is wrong of him to play football in a team that plays against young boys who are just out of school - 18 yr olds (He is 43). Said he would not be doing this any longer. Seemed embarrassed (although perhaps I was projecting!).
Hope someone can see some patterning in all this. I think it helps to know how this process of mlc unfolds.
