Falling Down 100....Getting Up 101

[RosaLinda]

Portia "Guess who texted me today? 

I was enjoying a day outside and had turned my phone off so I have not yet replied. I am a little scared to reply. I don't want to lose the ground I have gained. I do not want a reconnection only to hear about how in love he is or how pregnant the GF is or whatever. 

Many have said that when the LBS is truly ready to move on is when the MLCer reappears. In my case that has proven true."

Thanks for your kind words Portia, but the closer my H gets to his trip to Moscow, the less optimistic I find myself. I will undoubtedly drive you all nuts with my crying and whining over the next few months. I apologize ahead of time

I agree with NLT and Bea - you have every right to be wary Portia. It's taken many months and a lot of heartache and hard work for your heart wounds to scab up. You don't want to rip those scabs off before they're ready to fall off naturally. 

But....you know my views on no contact. So, a lot would depend on what SO's text said. what did it say? Generic? Friendly?

Bea said "Do you want to keep the door open, or slam it shut? Do you want a 'friendship ' with him? Your call." And it's true. It's up to you Portia. You know I would try to turn off my expectations switch and would text back. Light, friendly, fun. Non pursuing. I think if it were me, I would not be thrilled to learn something like GF is pregnant either. But I think it's better to know the truth. And maybe they have broken up. Either way, you are on his mind! And that IS a good thing!