Sorry to ask this, but have you read Divorce Remedy yet?
It looks like your following some of the 180 stuff, but not really following the book much. Sure you have to have some respect for yourself, but theres a lot you just have to give in to, and let it play out by itself.
I'm not sure how it works where u live, but if you already signed a legal agreement for divorce, theres no going back on it.
Demanding answers/responses, confronting the OM, are not DR ways. I'm not sure if you get this or not, but your wife could really give a crap what you think right now about ANYTHING. If you see things, and think there positive, then your mind reading and allowing her to manipulate you. That's why you BACK AWAY, its not supposed to be about your interactions, its about what your doing for yourself.
Look at is this way, if you get hit in a crosswalk by a car tomorrow, your wife wouldn't even probably show up for the funeral. REMOVE all interactions with her and OM, period. Your just driving yourself insane mind reading, guessing, and playing into her hands.
I know im somewhat new myself, but theres a difference between respect and control going on here.
I'm going to respectfully remove myself from this thread, cause it gets more and more confusing everyday from a DR standpoint. I wish you good luck in the future, and hope things work out for you, one way or the other.
