"Sounds like i should draw the line. No more OM in the house nor taking the girls out."

Yes because it's inappropriate and disrespectful to you and the kids.

"Tell her she can go if she wants to but leave my kids alone? "

No. They are her kids too. She can take them but if she's flaunting to you that OM is joining her and the kids then state your boundaries. Look I know that OM might join anyway, but it's different if you know and agreed than not knowing. Sure she can pull it off, but she has to deal with her conscience. Is she stating these outings to you or are you just assuming?

Let us know what your L say.

Newman

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.